There was a young woman who was really excited as she moved out into her own house. While living at home, she was never interested in cooking. After the excitement of the move, and a few meals burnt to cinders she returned home to learn how to cook a few dishes. One of her favorite recipes was Pot Roast. So she asked her mother to show her how to cook one. Her mother was delighted to share her expertise with her daughter. She told her to salt and pepper the meat well. To make sure the vegetables are all cut the same size.  Just before her Mum placed the roast in the pan, she picked up a knife and cut about a ¼ of an inch of roast from each end. Then she placed the meat in the pan.

The daughter stopped her Mum. “Mum, I understand why we cut the vegetables the same size – that way they’ll cook uniformly. And I know the reason we salt and pepper the meat all over – and rather heavily, is so the whole roast will absorb the flavor of the seasonings.

But what beliefs did you have to cut a little bit off each end of the roast before you placed it in the pan?”

“Because that’s what you do”, said her Mum.

“But why?”questioned her daughter.

“Does it help it cook better?”

“Well, I do it this way, because that’s the beliefs my Mum taught me”, said her Mum. “But I’m not really sure why we cut the ends off. Next time we go to visit Grandma we’ll ask her.”


Several months later the family gathers at Grandma’s house for dinner. As Grandma prepares the meal the Mother and daughter are in the kitchen with her. The daughter asks her grandmother, “Grandma, you’re such a good cook, and I know you passed all your methods on to Mum, but I can’t figure out why we cut the ends off the pot roast before we cook it.” The grandmother turned to her granddaughter and said, “What are you talking about? I don’t cut the ends off before I cook it.” At this point the Mother jumps into the conversation and says, “Yes you do! The first time you showed me how to make a pot roast, you started to put it in the pan, and then you put the roast back on the cutting board and cut about a 1/4 inch off each end of the roast. I’ve been doing it that way ever since”, she declared!

The grandmother stared at her daughter in amazement. “Every time you cook a pot roast you cut a ¼ inch off the ends? Every single time?” “Yes!” She answered her mother. “Every - single - time, just like you showed me.” “Honey, all I can say is you’ve been wasting a lot of good meat over the years. The only time I ever cut the ends off the roast is if it’s too big for the pan!”

Adapted from Unknown Author

Now Check In with your actions to learn what

beliefs you have, that you have not not realised.

What have you been doing since you were young, just because some-body told you to do it?

What have you been doing since you were young because you made up what people think of you?

What have you been doing since you were young that is no longer relevant?

Love you to post your answers on the blog.

Do you know why I ask you to do this?

Just reading the story, information goes in and goes out – something may stir but it may not make any difference.

What if you take a few minutes to read the story and then a few minutes to reflect on what you were told as a child and you have been doing ever since without questioning.

If you do this, you may just find some “hardwood” some “rot” some “burden” that no longer serves you and you can then choose, do I still want to do that or not?

This way you have a real choice. You are just not doing something on autopilot.

Like “thinking I have to give myself up to my partner in order to meet their needs and get love.” Maybe that does not really work as we are left empty, exhausted, resentful and it does not really “get us love”.

What we make our own serves us far more than just letting information just pass us by or float in and out.

So come on take a few minutes, reflect on what you might be doing without knowing the reason why, what you are doing on autopilot that is costing you something without realizing it.

Love you to generously share, your sharing ignites others to learn and we can all support one another’s growth.

Love to you